Saturday, May 24, 2014
We aren't as lazy as we are made out to be. Sure, I'm currently in a relationship with Netflix, but I do other stuff then spend time with Netflix. Teenagers have a bad rep for sitting around and doing nothing with our lives; but do you want to know a secret? Sometimes, we do nothing we want to numb the pressure. Pressure? "But Elissa, I don't but pressure on !" Well, maybe you don't mean to put pressure on us. But pressure is there; and sometimes we feel like we are suffocating in it. So, sometimes doing nothing is to rebel against that, or just to get away from it; to take a break. So please, don't tell me that Fruit Ninja isn't going to write the paper for me. I know. Seriously, I do. Instead, ask me if I'm feeling tired. Or ask about what in whatever project, is setting me back. Or why I am procrastinating. Or do I even care? Why or why not? Make it a reasonable conversation; not an interrogation.
2. In case you forgot, Acne sucks. Buy me some concealer and face wash, please. And beyond that? Let it go. Something else; if you have children that have not yet hit puberty, let them in on a secret. Tell them that when they get older, their body will change. One of these changes is that they could get zits. You don't need to go into any detail; just let them know what acne is, and it's no big deal. I can not tell you how many times I have been around kids, when they look at my, or my friends, faces and ask, "What are those red dots?" So please. Help out our confidence.
We need it:)
3. Drama. Is one of the most dramatic things I have ever experienced. This is the most dramatic time of my life I have ever experienced. I have never, ever, experienced this before. What can you do about this? Please don't shelter us from your personal drama. No, we need to see that we aren't alone in this; why don't you show us how to have perspective, by example? Don't burry it, just be healthy about your personal drama. And when it comes to us? Step in when you need to, but just listen. Honestly, listening without judgment is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give a teenager.
4. Being a teenager is awkward. We're awkward. There, I said it. We're not supper good at interacting with people, not because we are drowning in social media, but because this is an awkward time. Social media might play a part, but I don't think that is the key issue. This is just a weird time!!! There are the boys who are still playing with action dudes, then there are the creepy dudes. There are the kids twist everything in a twisted direction. There are girls that more two faced then you could ever imagine. And when we are all together......what do you thinks gonna happen?!? It's just awkward. It's the way it is. So what can you do about it? Include everyone in conversation, or whatever your doing. And be cool. That helps too.
5. We have experienced some of this big and scary world. Maybe not all of it; but enough of it. So please, please, don't try to shelter us too much. And don't act like we know nothing. I know my friend was raped by her dad (who is no longer in the picture) when she was seven years old. I know a girl who has an extremely active eating disorder. ADD, ADHD, PTSD, and so many more surround us daily. Boyfriends/girlfriends are interring the picture. We see and experience pain, just like anyone else in this world. We haven't lived on our own; we don't know every thing. But we are alive and breathing in a broken world. *Cough-cough-justlikeyou-cough-cough*
6. Don't try to shelter us, or put us in a bubble. It just. Doesn't. Work. You begin to make choices about of fear. And we begin to make choices out of rebellion. So please ladies and gentlemen, don't do it! You will end up in a place you don't want to be, and everyone will have a whole lot of baggage. SIDE NOTE: Something that really helps with this, is critical thinking. Asking really hard questions about what WE think, and WHY. Questioning is extremely beneficial. So do your homework.
7.You aren't the only person with requirements that need to be met. High expectations surround us. It seams like everyone thinks 'their thing' is the 'most important thing'. We don't have all the time in the world. We have school. Sports. Music. Other stuff. And everyone seams to think their activity is the only one, and you have all the time in the world. And what happens if we don't do anything you ask us to do? If we aren't turning in homework? If we aren't trying at soccer? It could have do with a lot of things, but, the things I work my absolute hardest in are the things that will get me where I want to be. I am still not %100 sure about what I want to do with my life, but I have an idea. Sometimes, we need something we are passionate about. And sleep.
8. Spending time with friends is important. So yeah, we may constantly be texting/talking/shoping/facebooking/twittering/instgraming/ect. with our hommies. This is important. But spending time with family is also important, you say. Yes, it is. But remember; friends are family that you get to pick.
9. It is a big deal; so don't tell me about 'the big picture'. Please, please, please; don't tell me that it isn't a big deal. It is. I don't need perspective. I don't need to know, that in 20 years, I won't remember this. Even if you believe any of those things to be true, don't say so. Just keep it to yourself, and let us be upset. Because like I said before; Listening without judgment is one of the greatest gifts you can give a teenager.
10. We like to have fun. Enough said. Oh, and coffee is good too.