Saturday, May 24, 2014

ten things teenagers want you to know



 1. We aren't as lazy as we are made out to be. Sure, I'm currently in a relationship with Netflix, but I do other stuff then spend time with Netflix. Teenagers have a bad rep for sitting around and doing nothing with our lives; but do you want to know a secret? Sometimes, we do nothing we want to numb the pressure. Pressure? "But Elissa, I don't but pressure on               !" Well, maybe you don't mean to put pressure on us. But pressure is there; and sometimes we feel like we are suffocating in it. So, sometimes doing nothing is to rebel against that, or just to get away from it; to take a break. So please, don't tell me that Fruit Ninja isn't going to write the paper for me.  I know. Seriously, I do. Instead, ask me if I'm feeling tired. Or ask about what in whatever project, is setting me back. Or why I am procrastinating. Or do I even care? Why or why not? Make it a reasonable conversation; not an interrogation.

2. In case you forgot, Acne sucks. Buy me some concealer and face wash, please. And beyond that? Let it go. Something else; if you have children that have not yet hit puberty, let them in on a secret. Tell them that when they get older, their body will change. One of these changes is that they could get zits. You don't need to go into any detail; just let them know what acne is, and it's no big deal. I can not tell you how many times I have been around kids, when they look at my, or my friends, faces and ask, "What are those red dots?" So please. Help out our confidence.
We need it:)

3. Drama. Is one of the most dramatic things I have ever experienced. This is the most dramatic time of my life I have ever experienced. I have never, ever, experienced this before. What can you do about this? Please don't shelter us from your personal drama. No, we need to see that we aren't alone in this; why don't you show us how to have perspective, by example? Don't burry it, just be healthy about your personal drama. And when it comes to us? Step in when you need to, but just listen. Honestly, listening without judgment is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give a teenager.

4. Being a teenager is awkward. We're awkward. There, I said it. We're not supper good at interacting with people, not because we are drowning in social media, but because this is an awkward time. Social media might play a part, but I don't think that is the key issue. This is just a weird time!!! There are the boys who are still playing with action dudes, then there are the creepy dudes. There are the kids twist everything in a twisted direction. There are girls that more two faced then you could ever imagine. And when we are all together......what do you thinks gonna happen?!? It's just awkward. It's the way it is. So what can you do about it? Include everyone in conversation, or whatever your doing. And be cool. That helps too.

5. We have experienced some of this big and scary world. Maybe not all of it; but enough of it. So please, please, don't try to shelter us too much. And don't act like we know nothing. I know my friend was raped by her dad (who is no longer in the picture) when she was seven years old. I know a girl who has an extremely active eating disorder. ADD, ADHD, PTSD, and so many more surround us daily.  Boyfriends/girlfriends are interring the picture.  We see and experience pain, just like anyone else in this world. We haven't lived on our own; we don't know every thing. But we are alive and breathing in a broken world. *Cough-cough-justlikeyou-cough-cough*

6. Don't try to shelter us, or put us in a bubble. It just. Doesn't. Work. You begin to make choices about of fear. And we begin to make choices out of rebellion. So please ladies and gentlemen, don't do it! You will end up in a place you don't want to be, and everyone will have a whole lot of baggage. SIDE NOTE: Something that really helps with this, is critical thinking. Asking really hard questions about what WE think, and WHY.  Questioning is extremely beneficial. So do your homework.  

7.You aren't the only person with requirements that need to be met. High expectations surround us. It seams like everyone thinks 'their thing' is the 'most important thing'. We don't have all the time in the world. We have school. Sports. Music. Other stuff. And everyone seams to think their activity is the only one, and you have all the time in the world. And what happens if we don't do anything you ask us to do? If we aren't turning in homework? If we aren't trying at soccer? It could have do with a lot of things, but, the things I work my absolute hardest in are the things that will get me where I want to be. I am still not %100 sure about what I want to do with my life, but I have an idea. Sometimes, we need something we are passionate about. And sleep.

8. Spending time with friends is important. So yeah, we may constantly be texting/talking/shoping/facebooking/twittering/instgraming/ect. with our hommies. This is important. But spending time with family is also important, you say. Yes, it is. But remember; friends are family that you get to pick.

9. It is a big deal; so don't tell me about 'the big picture'. Please, please, please; don't tell me that it isn't a big deal. It is. I don't need perspective. I don't need to know, that in 20 years, I won't remember this. Even if you believe any of those things to be true, don't say so. Just keep it to yourself, and let us be upset. Because like I said before; Listening without judgment is one of the greatest gifts you can give a teenager.

10. We like to have fun. Enough said. Oh, and coffee is good too.


Monday, May 19, 2014


   When we were little, we weren't allowed to use the word stupid. Or dumb. Or idiot.

But Jayna, some idiots are making some stupid decisions, that make me feel dumb, and it really sucks.
 Oh yeah, lets not forget 'sucks'.

I don't write that to rebel, but sometimes strong language is the only thing is describe strong emotion. I am mad.
Mad because people are making decisions for the wrong reasons.
Mad because it just isn't fair.
Mad because I have so much to do, and not feeling motivated enough to do it.
Mad because people don't see integrity. I'm not saying that I have loads of it; I'm just saying it feels unappreciated.
I am mad because sometimes, life can feel stupid. And dumb. And it just isn't very fun. (okay, I made a rhyme, because I'm just that cool)

But yeah. It's frustrating.


Saturday, May 17, 2014

My exact thoughts on Oral Reports

Dear Jayna,

  Yes, I understand public speaking is a lot of people's greatest fear.....
Not mine, friends.

    So prepare yourself to have a moment in my brain, courtesy of Baby Blues


                    Yes, I thought it was funny too:-)

Sunday, May 11, 2014

To all the mom's out in blogger land....

                    We.  Appreciate. You.


     And today, we stop to say THANK YOU.

Monday, May 5, 2014

The stuff that will survive spring cleaning

Dear Jayna,

Spring has sprung.
       "Well thank you for telling me that. It's only MAY."

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know. But yesterday was the first, like warm day around here, so it has been weighing on my mind. Not spring. No, the fact that winter doesn't last forever. Which is a risky thought here in Washington.

   So because it hit 70, were all running for our shorts, ice cream, and lemonade. (While blinding every one with our white legs) And the shorts and tank-tops come out. Which brings me to the point; this is an exceptionally busy time for me.

  So instead of rambling on about how busy I am, and how sorry I am for not posting supper often I thought I could share with you a few of my favorite items. Yeah, that's right. I am about to show you pictures of my stuff. :-) Well these items do get some credit, because they are being used HEAVILY.                            

These shoes. Are. Amazing. First off, they are very comfortable. Second of all, I love them because I can wear them with jeans, capris, and shorts!! Maybe this isn't supper practical for you in Hawaii, but having good walking shoes to wear with pretty much anything is amazingful.
Next on the list:

 This is my new favorite nail polish. Which doesn't tell you much. Okay, let me restate that; this is one of the greatest colors of nail polish ever to be invented.  I understand everyone has different nail polish color choices, but seriously?!? How can you resist ballerina pink? It is classy to it's core.

 Speaking of nail polish, this sparkly gold is what I have on top of the pink right now. On my toes. I thought I about putting a picture, but then I reminded myself, "Who am I kidding?" Because I have the ugliest ballerina toes at the moment. Blisters and all. So, yeah. You can thank me for not scaring you for life.

This owl bag pretty much saves my life every day. I can pack SO MANY different things into it PLUS stay organized. I have another one with polka dots. I would highly recommend these! In the morning, I pack different sets of stuff in each bag. Example: youth group clothes in one, ballet tights and leotard in another. I understand this isn't very practical if your coming home between activities, but it is SUPPER helpful for days on the go. :-)

  These mints. Are worth buying. I am not a huge green tea fan, but I don't mind it. But these have the perfect balance of mint, green tea and a calming sweetness to them. You might not like them if you don't really like green tea; but for someone who does, you will love them!


     I love this mask even though it has nothing to do with must have's for spring. I could live without it. We are wearing them for our jazz dance, and I just currently love this mask. So yeah.

Last but defiantly not least, this card is taped to my mirror. And it makes my day. Pretty much every day. ;-)
So what about you? What stuff are you thankful for this spring?

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